Something missing in your career? Feeling stagnant? Need a reboot?
Find your opposite.
So often, we look at our peers and colleagues as our competition, but what if they are there to compliment our style, teach us and learn from us throughout our career journey? Think about it; we become stuck, and instead of looking for new answers, we start to fear uncertainty, which spirals into insecurity. It stalls us out and moves into negative emotions, self-talk, and resistance.
We naturally like to work with people who think and act like us. They are easier to collaborate with, not to mention easier to manage. At work, we know we should collaborate. Still, in reality, we often need to move to consensus quickly to meet the business's demands, robbing us of the mind-expanding exercises we need to facilitate growth.
But what if we found a partner that didn't think like us? When we engage with them, we will begin to expect the unexpected, reducing the emotional reaction (the amygdala...
Who has more demands? You or your employer? If your employer struggles to meet your needs, this is for you.
When it comes to your career, do you struggle to balance your responsibility to yourself and the organization? I talk a lot about this with my clients. The word they often use is GUILT. Many times we have to go back to the beginning of this relationship to remember how it started.
You and your employer made a mutual agreement. You accepted your employer's offer, and they committed to pay you to perform a job. It was business.
The longer you are there, the more invested you become in the relationships, the work, and the results. Then, as time passes, you expect more from each other. Your employer watches you build new skills and wants you to take on more responsibility. You feel accomplished and successful. You may expect a raise and promotion in return, but the recognition feels good.
But then, one partner in this...
My question is if you lost your job today, would you feel relief? If you can admit that out loud (it will stay in between the two of us), it is time to think about a search. It is a candidate's market, and depending on your salary, a good search can take up to eighteen months.
Have you ever quit a job or had your position eliminated, and there was a weird feeling of relief that accompanied fear? If this is not you, you are one of the lucky ones - keep reading.
Of course, it is easy to fall into a space of regret, frustration, or anger after it happens. But what action can you take before it happens?
Unfortunately, most people find themselves in the space of regretting the past: instead of taking the time to look towards the future and the risk that precedes success.
Yet, every step that has brought you to this moment has given you something to learn from and helped you move forward. This is hard to remember when things do not feel like they are going your way....
Do you roll your eyes when your leader schedules time for your review? After all, why are you talking about last year? You turned in your self-review over a month ago, and you can't even remember what you wrote.
It's time to change the narrative in your head about this annual event.
It is not something you should be rushing through. Instead, make the most of the time dedicated to a conversation focused on you and your future. You deserve this, you worked hard all year, and instead of rolling your eyes when you see the meeting invite, you need to prepare.
So what do you need to do to make the most of this conversation?
First, plan to talk about what you are proud of accomplishing last year. However, don't discuss the project - instead, gather your talking points around how they contributed to the company or department. Articulating your team's contribution to the bigger picture and the ROI gives your leader talking points that they can use in executive...
Title matters. When I was younger, I was naive to think that the work I did and the people I did it for were what mattered. Then I got promoted. Overnight, everything changed. I was invited to more meetings, asked to weigh in on more situations outside of my department, and had a more significant influence on the organization.
With that being said, some leaders had always treated me with the same respect. Most of the executive team would see me in the hallway and stop for a genuine chat expressing great interest in whatever conversation we had that day - but with others, it was different.
I only bring this up because TITLE should be part of your career strategy. While the title may not change the work you are doing or the satisfaction you get out of your role, it can benefit you in many other ways.
First, sadly, people treat you differently internally and externally. The vendors and consultants you work with externally make initial judgments about you when they see your title....
Life is short, time is in short supply, and our attention spans are getting shorter by the minute. What you need to know is bullet-pointed below, but read to the end of the article if you need the justification.
Your networking strategy must include - UP, DOWN, and SIDEWAYS.
Corporate America is experiencing more change than it has in many years.
Most companies have awakened to the need to embrace technology, the reality that they lack diversity, and the need for mental health initiatives while navigating the pandemic and leading from afar.
Those who still did not believe they could trust people to work remotely were given a new dose of reality and proven wrong. As a result, the expectations of leadership and careers are evolving.
So will you follow the career path of those that went before you? The one that got your boss and your boss' boss to their station in life. Will you wait in line for your turn, or may I propose a different option?
Our career path was laid out before us for years, making life easy yet frustrating at times. Instead of focusing on moving up the ladder, focus on the journey.
So how do you differentiate a career path from a journey?
The path is straightforward. The journey is full of exploration.
First, find good...
What are your New Year's traditions?
Resolutions? Goals? A mantra? A bucket list or checklist? What about a word or two? My thought partner and I pick three words each year that we will hold tight to during the highs and lows of the year.
The purpose of these words is to keep us centered, inspired, moving forward, and focused on our goals! However, as I contemplate my words for 2022 (this is a very important and introspective process), I am torn because the word at the top of my list has such a negative connotation.
After a search in the Miriam Webster Dictionary, the Thesaurus, and a little research on the history of this word, I feel an overwhelming need to defend this word. I think it is important for my growth, success, dreams, and maybe yours.
So here it goes, I will say it out loud - at the top of my list, I am choosing UNCOMFORTABLE.
To review, the definition of uncomfortable is: Causing or feeling slight pain or physical discomfort, OR - causing or feeling unease or...
I believe in JOY, even at work. This statement may sound a little Polyana, but I have experienced it in the corporate world and as a coach. I believe you can too. However, it is work (not the job - finding the joy).
Looking for joy? Then it is time to begin your quest for the path that leads you to that magical experience we all deserve. To start, are you even on the right track? Has the career path you have taken brought you something to look forward to next week, next month, or next year? Do you see a clear path ahead for your career?
If the path is correct, then is the work meaningful to you? So many get lost because they start their careers worried about what their parents expected or what their college peers believed they should be doing, and they find it hard to pursue their dreams after a few years in the job market. What do you believe? Whether you are keeping the cafeteria clean at the elementary school or working towards world peace, every job is essential...
When did we stop adulting at work?
Do you have a situation where you or someone you know is not showing up authentically at work? What is keeping leaders from adulting in those critical situations? When did it become so hard to show up as your true self?
Culture. Culture can be a truth killer. Unfortunately, there are still many situations where employees are told "that is not the way we do it" or "it doesn't feel right for our culture." Maybe we are second-guessing ourselves because it has never been done "that way" here. The question should be, but what are the possibilities if we did it "that way" here? We sometimes forget that change can be good, even if it is uncomfortable.
Communication Skills. Maybe adulting feels hard because you have an unpopular point of view and you are don't know exactly how to articulate your case. Maybe you were caught off guard or are in a meeting where difficult decisions are being made or maybe there are...