You Might Not Need a New Job.

May 20, 2025

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𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

The Shift

A client came to me ready to resign. The job wasn’t toxic. Her boss wasn’t terrible. But something felt off, tight, dull, invisible.

She’d been holding it all in. Skipping over her own ideas. Avoiding hard conversations. Keeping the peace, while slowly losing her own voice. She thought the solution was to leave. But what she actually needed was to reclaim herself inside the role.

This is what happens when leaders unconsciously take on a role that’s more about safety than leadership: the pleaser, the fixer, the “team player” who never has needs. Quitting would’ve just taken that same contract into a new office.

You don’t have to stay stuck. But make sure you’re not running from a version of yourself that you keep recreating.

Try This

Before updating your résumé, try updating your patterns.

Ask:
“Why have I assumed I can’t say here?”
“What am I avoiding that might be worth confronting?”
“If I showed up like my needs mattered—what would I do next?”

That’s the work. Not the exit plan.

One Recommendation

📰 Are You Too Emotionally Invested in Your Job? by Melody Wilding, HBR
A sharp look at how we internalize our workplace values, and how over-functioning, people-pleasing, and staying silent can burn us out faster than the job itself.

Closing Thought

Running from something is a signal—it’s time to pause, reflect, and get honest about what’s really driving you.

Running to something? That’s clarity. That’s power.

Know the difference. Make your move from there.

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